[jenny-marie]

I have a big problem!
My husband-to-be and I both have really big familys, and we both would like a small wedding. For our wedding Ceremony we would just like to invite our immediate family members. My mother seems to think that means her immediate family members, and that means 6 more people.
Okay, 6 more people is not alot, but it is when you don't have the room. My mum doesn't understand that my immediate family members are not her immediate family members. I have tried explaining to her, but she goes off like a spolit little child who isn't getting what they want. I wouldn't mind including them, only there isn't enough room.
My mum said some people would be happy to stand. Who would stand at a wedding, when it's not all the guests, and when they are all retired (old age pensioners)?
I thought my mum would be okay with my plan, to invite immediate family members to the wedding, and everyone to the evening party afterwards. As I have said before, spolit little child alert!
My mum has even threatened not to come to the wedding, I spoke to my dad and he said tell her to not come then. (My parents are happily married, my dad just feels that I am old enough to handle my mum now, and as it is my wedding I should deal with her).
It's just really hard and frustrating when my mum doesn't understand what I want and that she just keeps bring it back to '...but can you understand where I am coming from?' when she never once says she understands where I am coming from.
Can anyone suggest anything? I feel like I am at my wits end!